Dating as a plus-sized woman comes with its challenges. It comes with a fear of rejection and a worry that people will see them as “less than.” And even if a curvy woman isn’t insecure about her body, society (and potential romantic partners) will make her feel like she should be. Here are all the dating struggles that plus-size women face—and how to overcome them.
Intimate life
Some plus-size women might be insecure about how they look physically, preventing them from experiencing full pleasure. A plus-size woman might also experience pressure on joints during sex, meaning that you’ll need to figure out the right positions that are comfortable for her and work with her range of mobility.
To overcome these issues, wear lingerie that emphasizes the body parts you’re proudest of, and use lots of pillows to get comfortable. Communicate with your partner in the bedroom, and focus on sensations over visuals.
Experiencing self-love
You’re not ready for a relationship unless you love yourself. Radical self-love allows you to find the right person, but how do you get there? One of the best ways to accomplish this is through affirmations. Start with the mirror, which can be a triggering place for many. Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself, out loud, one thing you love about yourself.
You can also write these little compliments to yourself on sticky notes that you place on the mirror. Repeat them throughout the day—positive self-talk has been proven to boost confidence and improve your health. To love yourself more, go on dates with yourself! Practice self-care through dressing up and taking yourself out to dinner or exploring your favorite hobbies.
Being confident
Confidence isn’t just something that plus-size women deal with. Many of us struggle with this daily, whether it’s due to unrealistic social media comparisons or harsh self-judgements about what we should look like—faking it till you make it will only get you so far. To combat low confidence, partake in activities that increase endorphins and make you feel good.
Find a form of exercise that you enjoy, whether that’s taking a dance class, going on a hike, or lifting weights. See a therapist. Journal your emotions and thoughts. Practice breath-work that clears your mind and calms you. All of this will make a difference and transform you into your best self.
