Getting unsolicited advice from friends and family
If you’re a plus-size woman that’s dating, you might get suggestions from your friends and family that don’t make you feel great. They may think they’re doing you a service by suggesting things like weight loss or changes that will improve your dating life, but the impact on your self-esteem can be harmful.
To stand up for yourself and prevent this in the future, set boundaries, telling them you don’t want to discuss your body and you’re happy with who you are. If you’re comfortable discussing your dating life (but not your body), remind the person you’re talking to that you’re focused on finding a great partner rather than changing yourself. And finally, be sure to surround yourself with body-positive voices that uplift you rather than toxic ones!
People assume that you should “settle,” and sometimes, you believe it
Some people assume that plus-size women shouldn’t be so picky when it comes to dating. They should just accept whoever is attracted to them and take whatever attention they can get. But this isn’t true. You deserve to have high standards and a partner that treats you well, no matter what your body type is.
You deserve a partner who will worship you. To overcome this mentality, move on from people you date who don’t put in the energy you deserve. Remember that confidence is one of the most attractive qualities there is, and the right person will appreciate you for who you are.
