There’s no worse blow to confidence than being ghosted after the first date. However, it happens to the best of us, but although it’s common, that doesn’t make it any less upsetting. It doesn’t feel great to have what you thought was a magical first date, only to be left waiting for a message or call that never came. When someone stops all communication without any kind of explanation, it can be shocking, and it’s tough to know how to respond or if you even want to put in the effort to respond. It’s all up to you and what you feel comfortable with, but here are some important things to keep in mind when someone hasn’t bothered to reach out gain.
1. Accept it
Acceptance is important, although this situation is hurtful and frustrating. While you may want to lash out immediately or change the situation, don’t try to fight it or chase after them. Try to see it in a positive light – in a way, you should be glad that someone like that exited your life.
2. Focus on moving on
If you’ve been ignored or left on read, it can be tempting to go haywire and not stop messaging until you get a response. However, it’s important to realize that in the long run, the best thing for you to do is let it go and move on. If that person can’t give you the respect and dignity of a simple response, even if it’s to say they’re not interested, they don’t deserve your effort in reaching. Instead of focusing on the “why” focus on the fact that they didn’t contact you, and consider if you want to be treated like this in the future.
3. Delete and block
To get them out of your mind and prevent you from reaching out when you shouldn’t, mute or unfollow them on social media. Delete their number if you need to, and put your energy into things that bring you joy instead of anxiety and negative energy. This can include talking to your support network, journaling, or focusing on hobbies.
